BASIC THINGS CHRISTIAN SINGLES SHOULD NOT DO

But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or any kind of impurity…for these are improper for God’s holy people (Eph. 5:3).

This dispensation is witnessing all kinds of immoral behaviours. You don’t need any telescope before you can see it. The church of God which is supposed to be the Vanguard of Morality and purity has lost the immunity needed very quickly. Where people should run to has now become where people are running away from. However, I still strongly believe that there can always be a Virgin Mary and Joseph who will maintain purity in every dispensation. May you be the one. There is a serious need to call the attention of Christian singles to things they should not do. Some of them are:

•Shun Pornography:

This is the ungodly, immoral treatment of sexual subjects in writing and pictures, produced by men of depraved minds, in a way that is intended to arouse sexual excitement. As a Christian girl and boy, you should not embrace pornography. For instance, when you enter some singles’ rooms you see postal, pictures, and sexual subjects. Some singles have different kinds of sexual subjects on their handsets. Where are we going?

• Watching Blue Film:

Blue films are films showing immorality and impurity. For instance, in a blue film, you may see a lady and a guy in the act of sexual intercourse. Stop watching such. It can only destroy, it cannot edify.

•Watching Nudity Ladies and Boys:

Nude means bare nakedness while unclothed. Do you know that there are a lot of nude ladies and boys on the internet? It has been discovered that most young boys and ladies who go to the net to browse do go there to watch nudity on the internet.

• Violent Dressing:

These are the kinds of dressing revealing certain parts of the human body e.g. showing breasts, thighs, buttocks, and navels, among others. As Christians, you should not be unaware of the fact that most of these girls and boys are agents of Satan. Their mission is to cause Christian (you) to fall. But ignorantly, some Christian sisters and brothers tend to emulate these agents of satan. I encourage you to always dress to glorify your God, your maker. You will give an account of how many people you lead to hell and their blood will be on your neck.

• Avoid Incest:

This is another immorality that is quickly finding its way into our society. Incest is a sexual relationship between people who are too closely related to marry, as between brother and sister. Incest is a grievous sin in the sight of God (Lev. 18:6 -19; Deut. 27:20 -22). Symptoms of incest are strange behaviour you notice between you and that brother or sister. Such symptom is: 1) when a close related brother or sister always touch your body, e.g. breast, buttock, etc. 2) when the close related brother or sister is always interested in seeing your nakedness; 3) when the close related brother or sister demonstrate sexual feeling when together; 4) when they always sleep so close on the same bed; whenever you discover these symptoms, either as sister or brother please be watchful and be careful. Know that there have been cases of a brother who impregnated his sister of the same parents. You will not be the next victim.

Among factors which can lead to incest are pornography, watching blue films, nudity, and violent dressing. So Christian singles should be wiser than the devil.

• Don’t Rape:

Rape is the act of forcing someone into a sexual relationship against his or her wish. Ladies as well as men do rape. It is fun to hear that most people, especially ladies who engage in violent dressings do that to rape. Likely causes of rape are Abusive words, night partying, pride, staying in the dark, loose sleep, uncontrolled visitation and the types of relationships you keep.

• Avoid Kissing:

Kiss means to touch with lips as a sign of love or in greeting or farewell. It is part of the Hebrew culture and the whites kiss as a sign of greetings or farewell. For example, Opah kissed Naomi, and she bid her farewell (Ruth 1:4). Apostle Paul, also instructed the Corinthians to greet one another with a holy kiss. (2Cor. 13:12). But in Africa, particularly in Nigeria, kissing is a sign of love –romantic love. Kissing as a sign of greeting or farewell is not part of our culture on this side of the world. It is imported into our culture. Some churches in the name of holy kiss permit church members to kiss one another. This has been causing serious immorality and impurity in some churches. To the best of my knowledge, kissing is strongly associated with romantic love. Most young ladies and men who engaged in it ended up in sexual intercourse. Some resulted in unwanted pregnancies with regret and pain. Say no to holy kiss. It is the mother of immorality among singles.

•Don’t Hug:

This means “to press tightly in the arms, especially, as a sign of love”. “It also means to stay close to something as one follows along the edge of it”. People generally hug to bid each other bye-bye or to welcome. It is dangerous for the opposite sex to be hugging each other. The case of a hug is closely related to a kiss. Hugging is mainly meant for the married. These types of hugging according to Adewale (2008) are:

• Model ‘A’ Hug:

This is a single hug with bodies which is meant for a goodbye or welcome or public hug.

• Model ‘P’ Hug:

This is the type of hugging the third trimester of pregnancy will allow.

• Model ‘I’ Hug:

This is putting bodies together, touching and wrapping up against the other person. It’s shaped just like I. mode I hug is meant for married couples. Today, what do you see? You see both singles and married engaging in type ‘I’ hugs. No wonder the case of sexual scandal is rampant among us today. Singles I want to beg of you don’t engage in what will mar your life. Be wise.

• Shun Masturbation:

This is the production or orgasm by manipulating one’s genitalia by oneself. Some singles do masturbate. This they do in response to sexual feelings/urges. It is an immoral act (1 Cor. 6:9 -11).

• Avoid Cohabitation:

This is the act of living together outside marriage. That is those who are yet to be legally joined together living together as husband and wife. Cohabitation has become an accepted norm all over the world. Cohabitation is an illegal license to fornication and adultery. Cohabitation in most cases does not lead to marriage due to a lack of common purpose by those who are involved. A lot of our higher institution’s students practice cohabitation. And after they have messed up themselves, they finally dump each other. Females are most affected, if you are the type who will tell parents that you are going to night prayer when in fact you are going to spend the night with your boyfriend, you are only deceiving yourself and the curse of God is upon you. Do yourself a favour and stop those attitudes today.

As you go through courtship, please don’t engage in what will wake “the sleeping dog” up. It may bite you beyond your expectations. Premarital sex is against the Christian virtues. Keep yourself pure. Wait for your time, a time when you would have received a license to do everything without fear or frailty. Remember the scripture says there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or any kind of impurity such as pornography, blue film, nude, incest, violent dressing, rape, kiss, and hug. Masturbation and cohabitation among you for these are improper for God’s holy people.

Reference

Adewale, B. (2008) Hot and Sizzling Marriage, Lagos: Living Home Foundation. The Complete Christian Dictionary for Home and School.